In Christ Alone: My Journey through Breast Cancer

a 35-year old, christian, mother of four, missionary/pastor's wife's story

And Now We Wait… October 24, 2014

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I realize that I have not updated you in a while now. We continue to wait on the Lord for many of the “big” things we are dealing with in our lives at the moment. But in the mean time, our day to day activities continue.

Health-wise, things remain much unchanged since I began my new chemo regimen three months ago. I did have my three month scan this week and it showed that everything is holding steady. The cancer has not grown anymore or spread anywhere else! Praise the Lord! When my cancer began to grow again in July, it was at a quite alarming rate, so we are thankful that this new chemo has stopped the cancer in its tracks.

We have not seen any shrinkage in the tumors yet, so we have begun to be more aggressive by skipping my “off week” in the chemo cycle and pushing forward with weekly treatments with no breaks for my body to rest and recover. As long as my counts can stay up and my side effects are tolerable, we hope to continue and see the cancer respond by shrinking. My lab counts have started to drop at times from the new chemo now, so I have gotten a couple of shots to boost my white blood cell production. These shots have side effects of head aches and aches in my bones and joints, but have not been too bad. So far this has worked and my counts have been up in the normal range again for the last two weeks! I have become even more fatigued as my body has no rest time. I now have to take a nap nearly every afternoon and plan my daily activities carefully so I do not overdo things. I am very thankful that Asher naps nicely each afternoon to give me time to rest! Usually an afternoon nap gives me the energy I need for the evening. I am also very tired on Fridays and Saturdays after my treatments. Pray with us that these more aggressive treatments will be effective and we will see the cancer begin to shrink!

Ministry-wise, my fatigue has somewhat limited my part in our church planting efforts, as well as Eric’s. I have not been able to begin leading a new Fall study with my Bible study gals due to my low energy and other family and church needs. Eric has also had to help out at home more by watching the kids while I rest and taking on more of the cooking responsibilities. This has taken away from the time he is able to devote to his pastoral duties.

These past few months we have devoted much of our ministry time and efforts to building a Strategic Mission for the church. This vision will allow us to refocus our attention and energy on growing our church family and building relationships in our community to show God’s love and share His hope with those around us. You can see and listen to more on this Strategic Mission to Connect, Grow, and Serve together on our website: We covet your prayers as we begin implementing this plan. We see God at work in many recent opportunities and know He can do great things with His church in Bennington. We are waiting on His perfect timing. We also see Satan attacking in many ways to distract and deter us. Pray that we can stand firm in the Lord and overcome the obstacles that lie before us with His help and strength.

Personally, we are so thankful for many blessings in our lives! God continues to give many opportunities to be encouraged and to help and encourage others in our day to day activities in the Bennington community, as well as the medical and cancer community. We are thankful for the time and energy we can spend helping in our community through the kids’ school and many community organizations and events. We are so thankful for the many individuals that continue to help by sending monetary gifts, clothes, meals and food, and providing childcare. Our family was also chosen to be this year’s recipient of the proceeds of a Breast Cancer Benefit Dinner a local Omaha restaurant does each year. We were so humbled by the love and generosity shown by the Harvest Cafe owner and employees, as well as all those that came out to support this event! Thank you so much for blessing us as we serve our wonderful Savior and wait on His perfect timing in our lives. Psalm 27:14-15 says:

“I remain confident of this:
    I will see the goodness of the Lord
    in the land of the living.
Wait for the Lord;
    be strong and take heart
    and wait for the Lord.”

I want to leave you with a few pictures of our amazing miracle Asher as we celebrate his 18 month birthday! I still look at him and think of all the miracles that had to happen for him to be here with us. I cannot imagine our lives without the “happiness and joy” of Asher!



Go August 27, 2014

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If you recall, my last two blog posts were entitled Get Ready and Get Set, so it’s only fitting that this one is entitled Go! God is working in truly amazing ways as we seek His will and wait patiently for His timing, while so many of you have fervently prayed with us!

2 Corinthians 1:10-11 – “He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us again. On him we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us, as you help us by your prayers. Then many will give thanks on our behalf for the gracious favor granted us in answer to the prayers of many.”

I shared this verse in my Get Ready post and asked you to pray with us about three specific areas. In my Get Set post, I shared how we could see God working in each of those three areas in our lives. Now, I invite all of you to give thanks with us for the “gracious favor granted us in answer to the prayers of many.” God keeps his promises! He is our Deliverer! He is our Provider! Here is how God is working:

Financially, we are praising God for His AMAZING provision! “Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us, to Him be the glory.” (Ephesians 3:20-21)

It is hard to even count the gifts of love we have received over these last few weeks from our sending and supporting churches, from dear friends, and from those in the Omaha and Bennington community! We have received many meals, clothes, food to stock our pantry and freezer, gift cards and more! In addition, we have received one-time, monetary gifts totaling $10,000 AND another $5,000 for medical expenses! God has also provided through a new financially supporting church bringing our monthly support level up to 56%! We are in awe of God’s provision through each one of these gifts! Thank you to all who have prayed and supported us in some way! To God be the glory!

Ministry-wise, we are excited that God is directing in our ministry planning as well! Continue to pray for God’s wisdom for us as we seek to plant a church that will glorify God as we connect, grow, and serve together.

We are thankful that, in answer to our prayers and waiting, God has closed the door on outside employment for Eric at this time and has shown He will continue to provide as we walk by faith. This helps us focus our time and energy on our current church plant ministries and raising our full monthly support through individuals and churches.

I also asked you to pray for partners to join with us in our ministry. Praise the Lord, we now have one answer to that request: a year long pastoral intern will be joining us in January! Having just one more committed person serving with us will open up many more opportunities in our work! Continue to pray that others will join our efforts permanently, and that we will have wisdom in how to best utilize the time and efforts of those here to show God’s love in Bennington.

Health-wise, we have been exploring another cancer treatment option. An opportunity presented itself to us, and we felt it would be good to follow through by gathering all of the information and prayerfully considering this new option. After speaking with these ‘new to us’ medical professionals and relaying all of my case information to them for review, they determined that they would not have anything additional to recommend at this time, aside from my current treatment.

This is reassuring to us that the treatment I am receiving is what other medical professionals would also recommend at this point. I have now been on my new chemo, Navelbine, for one full cycle, which is 4 weeks. All of my new tumors we are watching have stopped growing! We have not seen them shrink yet, but my oncologist says it can take 2-3 cycles before we see that response from this drug. So now we wait and see what God has for us to do while we are waiting. (There is no shortage of opportunities as we look around!)

Being back in the chemo room for weekly treatment again has allowed me to reconnect with some chemo friends, as well as meet new friends just beginning their cancer journeys. I am so thankful that God can use me and my cancer experience to share hope and encouragement with these dear gals and their families. What a privilege to be able to share of God’s faithfulness to me and the joy and hope He gives! Are you looking for the opportunities God places before you today, while you wait on His perfect timing for something else?

God has put the song While I’m Waiting on my heart, explaining how the waiting time is not easy and can be painful, but God is faithful and gives us many blessings when we serve Him while we are waiting. Thank you for blessing and encouraging us in so many ways while we are waiting!

Thank You from the Wilmeth Family!

Thank You from the Wilmeth Family!


Get Set July 19, 2014

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Thank you all for your prayers! God has been working in each area we asked you to pray with us about this week! I’m so thankful God hears our prayers and answers!

Health-wise, I was able to have my CT scan done this week, and it only shows one of my lumps that we already knew about. This is very good news! The cancer has NOT spread anywhere else! And most of the new lumps are still superficial enough that they do not show on the scan. We have adjusted my chemo: I went back to Herceptin to attack any of the HER2 positive cancer, and also added a new weekly chemotherapy called Navelbine. It does have a long list of possible side effects, including my blood counts being affected, so we will have to wait and see how it affects me this week. I received my first dose on Friday, and so far I’ve been feeling pretty good! The wheels are now set in motion, so we will wait to see how the cancer responds to this treatment.

It was neat to see how God worked this week in making the next step clear to us. We had different possibilities we were pondering, but God had the week’s events planned to help us Trust Him and He directed our path. Why is it so hard for us to claim His promise in Proverbs 3:5-6:

Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths.

Financially, God is putting some new opportunities before us! Some we have been working toward for a while, others came out of the blue just this week. If nothing else, we have the confidence that God will provide. He is over all His works! He owns the cattle on a thousand hills! Please pray that we will continue to have wisdom from above in discerning what God’s will is for our family financially.

Ministry-wise, God is shedding some light on possibilities, so please continue to pray as we seek to follow and honor God in our church planting ministry in Bennington, NE. I am so thankful for God using my hubby’s sermons in my life, especially the past two weeks. You’ll notice my last blog was entitled Get Ready from the title of Eric’s sermon that week. God is going to do great things! Are you Ready?

This past week’s sermon, He’s Here, reminded me why we can Trust God and His Word. If we have accepted Christ as our Savior and made Him Lord of our lives, He sends us the Holy Spirit to live in us. We have God living in us, with us wherever we go! He will give us whatever power we need to stand, no matter what comes. Trust in Him and Trust in His promises from His word.

God has put a couple of older songs in my heart this week. From my Patch the Pirate Club days, Rejoice in the Lord reminds me that God never moves without purpose or plan and He knows best. He Giveth More Grace reminds me that He will provide whatever I need as the needs arise. His power has no boundary! His riches are infinite! His love has no limit! As we rest in Him and cry out to Him, He gives us His grace, mercy, strength, and unexplainable peace for our journey.

God is at work; please keep praying with us as we Get Set for what He will do!

I Thessalonians 5:16-18 – “Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.


Get Ready July 12, 2014

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God is always at work and preparing us for what is coming. For a while now, I’ve felt God preparing me for something big that was on the horizon. I’m so very thankful He prompted me to lead a Bible study on Beth Moore’s book Get Out of That Pit. It was a wonderful time of getting to know these dear women and sharing our struggles in life and seeing God’s faithfulness in all situations. Through God’s power, we don’t have to stay in the pits of life. We are able to live this life out of the pit, standing firm on our Solid Rock no matter what challenges or storms this life may bring! Whether we were thrown into a pit by something that happened to us, slid into a pit, or jumped into a pit, God’s power can lift us out:

“I waited patiently for the Lord;
And He inclined to me and heard my cry.
He brought me up out of the pit of destruction, out of the miry clay,
And He set my feet upon a rock making my footsteps firm.
He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to our God;
Many will see and fear
And will trust in the Lord.”
Psalm 40:1-3

We are sometimes tempted to try to stand by our own power, and that may work for a time. But other times there is no way we can stand firm without God’s power. We are facing three big challenges in our lives right now that we crave your prayers and support as we look to God for guidance and strength.

Healthwise, my cancer treatments these last couple months have not been as effective as desired. Radiation did shrink my recurring tumor on the right side some and chemo seems to be keeping it from growing too much for now. Meanwhile, I have had five new tumors develop in the last three weeks in the middle, left, and now right sides. These tumors seem to be unaffected by my current treatment, so we are seeking what course of action is the best. Please pray for wisdom and clear direction for our medical team and for Eric and I as we seek what course to take. I am scheduled for scans on Wednesday and we will go from there.

Financially, our reserves are quickly dwindling. Our current missionary support level is about 50% of what we need now with our increased healthcare costs this year. We are seeking God’s will and direction. We either need to raise the rest of our needed support through churches and individuals giving, or Eric will have to take on another job to meet the needs. Either option will be a challenge with the needs of the church here, my changing medical treatment, and the demands of daily life for our family. Will you pray with us for guidance and clear direction in our financial challenge?

Ministrywise, we have felt the strain of needing some fellow laborers in our church planting ministry. Our Assistant Pastor and his wife have been away from our church to serve as interim pastor at another Nebraska church in need since March. I am struggling with fatigue from my cancer treatments, causing Eric to have to take on more of our household and family responsibilities. This in turn makes it difficult to keep up with the needs of a church plant, let alone be able to effectively plan for the future. Please pray with us that God will raise up strong families or individuals in the area to serve as part of our core church planting team.

We have some big challenges ahead, but we know that God is bigger and will make a way for us to stand firm no matter what circumstances we may face. We are so thankful for the continued support of all our prayer warriors, family, friends, and community. We truly could not do this without each of you!

2 Corinthians 1:10-11 – “He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us again. On him we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us, as you help us by your prayers. Then many will give thanks on our behalf for the gracious favor granted us in answer to the prayers of many.”
God has put this song in my heart-In Christ Alone
You can read our latest missionary update here-The Wilmeth Wire


Remembering May 27, 2014

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Sorry it has been so long since my last update. April and May have been very busy for our family, as is probably the case for most of you as well! Here are a few highlights:

Asher loves his birthday cake!

Asher loves his birthday cake!

Asher’s 1st Birthday-Our little miracle reached the milestone

Asher is 1 year old!

Asher is 1 year old!

of his 1st birthday! Asher is now walking around and starting to say some words. He is very social and loves to go out to various activities. May 27th will mark 1 year since we brought Asher home from the NICU! It has been amazing to see his growth in the past year from being totally dependent, even to breath in the beginning, to becoming an active little boy who now wants to do many things independently. “Every good and every perfect gift is from above.” (James 1:17) We are truly blessed to have been entrusted with our perfect gift of Asher James.

Washington Monument

Washington Monument

In the stocks!

In the stocks!

Washington DC Trip-I was so blessed to be able to go on the 5th grade field trip to Washington DC with Faith! It was an amazing experience to see the monuments and buildings and to experience so many things that our country was founded on. It was neat to see how God was part of the foundation of our country in so many ways.



Girls' Trip!

Girls Trip!

It was truly an answer to prayer that I was even able to take this trip and keep up with our group while under the fatigue of my chemo treatments. Most days we walked about 9 miles in our sightseeing endeavors! Thank you so much to all who were praying. I know it was because of your prayers and the supernatural energy I received that I could experience this once in a lifetime trip. It was a wonderful experience for Faith and I to share together. No matter what the future holds, we’ll always be able to look back on this fun girls trip we took together with fond memories.


Ready for graduations from K, 1st, & 5th Grades!

End of School Year Activities-Concerts,  Field Trips, Field Day, American Cancer Society Relay for Life Recess at our Elementary School, Awards Days-Kindergarten, 1st, & 5th Grade Graduations & more!

Church Activities-Spring Conference, began weekly Ladies Bible Study, hosting college team visits, Bennington Daze & Vacation Bible School planning, and the “normal” weekly ministries of a church planter.

As we remember the many who have given their lives to give our country the freedom we have today, I can’t help but think of the verse, “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.” (John 15:13) I have been blessed to teach my Jr Church kids how Jesus is the Good Shepherd. “The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.” (John 10:11) It is amazing to think about the love that someone must have to lay down their life for someone else. I am so thankful for the love God has for me, even to the point of dying for me. I urge you to meditate on Psalm 23 and see how the Lord acts as our Shepherd and gives us all that we need.

Medical Appointments-My scans once again came back clear! It is good to know that my cancer has not spread to other parts of my body! Once again, the spots we have been watching on the right chest area that keep growing, then shrinking after my chemo treatments, and then growing again did not show up on my scans. We decided to do a biopsy to confirm this was cancer again. I underwent a small punch biopsy 2 weeks ago on the new spot that developed since my last chemo treatment and the results show that it is cancer.

After consulting with my medical team, we have decided to pursue radiation and chemotherapy treatments. I will begin daily radiation treatments on Tuesday, May 27th for the next 3 weeks, while continuing on my current chemotherapy once every 3 weeks. I have not had any radiation on my right side before. I have had radiation on the left side 2 times now with excellent results: no cancer has returned to any radiated areas! We are praying this will be the treatment that will work on the right side now.

Please pray with us that this treatment will successfully kill the cancer, that the radiation burns will be tolerable and heal quickly, that I will have opportunities to share God’s faithfulness to me with others around me.

The month of May also marks another milestone in my life-my birthday! I am so thankful that God has blessed me with another year to experience the ups and downs of life here on earth with my family and friends. I am thankful God has taught me over this past year and is still teaching me that I can find joy in any circumstance I am in. I am thankful for the many opportunities to serve and help others, share Christ’s love, and tell of God’s faithfulness to me.

My journey has shown me how precious and fragile life really is. This past year, I have seen too many friends lose their battles with cancer, knowing that could be me before my next birthday. This life is but a vapor, and I know that each day is a gift from my precious Savior! I am so thankful that I have the assurance that this life is not all there is, and I will go to heaven when I leave this earth! Do you have that assurance? If not, please read this page! If you do have this assurance, are you living each day in light of your eternal salvation? Don’t miss out on the opportunities God places before you to live out your salvation so others may be pointed to God as well. Thank you all for your love, support, and prayers!


Time for More Scans April 12, 2014

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It has been 6 months since my last scans. And just in time, a couple of my recurring spots on the right side decided to pop up again. This tumor first made it’s appearance a little over a year ago during my pregnancy with Asher. Since then, we have seen it respond to 2 different chemotherapy regimens and go completely away each time, only to return again. This time I noticed it again the day before my last treatment. I had my treatment and again saw it shrink, but it has not gone away completely yet.
Since this spot keeps coming back, we are exploring other options of treatment. My oncologist set me up for a PET scan and CT scan. I also saw my Radiation Oncologist and radiation looks to be a good option. I’ve had great results from radiation on my left side, but have not had any radiation on the right side. So for now I continue my current chemotherapy treatment every 3 weeks, wait for results on the scans, and will most likely begin radiation in May.
At the beginning of May, I have the wonderful opportunity to go with my daughter Faith on her 5th Grade Class Field Trip to Washington D.C.!!! I have never been there before, and I am so excited to share this special experience with Faith! We have been fundraising throughout the school year to offset the cost of the trip. As May approaches, we have begun to research some of our destinations, and we are eager to see some of the examples around our Capitol that show the Christian Heritage of our nation! Please pray that I will have the energy needed to enjoy this amazing trip with Faith! Thankfully it will fall on the good week in my chemo cycle, but my energy has definitely been down again these past couple weeks.
Lately, as my prayer list has been growing with so many that are facing such difficult circumstances, I believe God has been working in my heart and showing me some ways that I can help and encourage those around me. I began a Bible study in our home this week with some dear ladies and am very excited to see how God will work through it in our lives in the coming weeks! I am also pursuing some other opportunities and will see if God continues to open doors. Please pray for me to have wisdom in using my energy and knowing what God’s will is for me right now.

As many cancer patients know, the time leading up to and waiting for results from scans can be a very anxious time. Fear of cancer spreading or recurring can run rampant if not held in check. When I struggle with worry, I always end up going back to my first round of testing to see if I had cancer. God brought me to the book of Philippians. Right in chapter 1:18-20:
“Yes, and I will rejoice, for I know that this will turn out for my deliverance through your prayers and the provision of the Spirit of Jesus Christ, according to my earnest expectation and hope, that I will not be put to shame in anything, but that with all boldness, Christ will even now, as always, be exalted in my body, whether by life or by death.”
This will turn out for my deliverance. No matter what the outcome, God is in control and will work this out for my deliverance and His glory! So I am to exalt Christ through my current situation.
Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” God has a purpose and can work any situation out for my good when I turn to Him and seek His will.
So, practically, what do we do when worry and anxiety creep in? Philippians 4:4-9 has the answer:
“Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice! Let your gentle spirit be known to all men. The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.”
1)Rejoice in the Lord, 2)Think of others, 3)Pray, 4)Give thanks, and 5)Control what you think about. (If it’s not on the list, change your train of thought to something that is on the list of things to dwell on.) Then the Peace of God which passes all understanding will be with you. Much, much easier said than done, I know! ;) It’s not easy, but it does work.
I’ll leave you with one last verse that I memorized under the tag “Assurance of Victory”:
“No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13) No matter what the future holds in this life, God will provide a way of escape for you to endure it. And we always have the future hope of eternity in heaven with our Savior!


11 Months & 3 Years March 17, 2014

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Asher photo bombing Adam and Ethan's picture!

Asher photo bombing Adam and Ethan’s picture!

Guess who is 11 months old today!?!?! Our sweet little miracle Asher is already 11 months old! Where does the time go? It’s so amazing to watch him learn and grow. He is such a blessing and joy to everyone around him. His smile just lights up his face and you can’t help but smile in your heart when you see it. :) He is truly living up to his name’s meaning of “happiness and joy”. We are so thankful for this sweet blessing from God in the midst of cancer.

Today also marks a big milestone in my cancer journey.3 years ago today, we heard those words that changed the course of our lives: “You do have cancer.” We did not know what this journey would bring. It has been a roller coaster of ups and downs, but God has been our rock through everything. We have heard those words 3 times in 3 years, once right after finding out we were pregnant with our sweet Asher. Each time we had peace that God was in control and had a plan in all of this, even if we didn’t know what that plan was. There was more than one time that we had to face the reality that God may take me home now. I do not know how we have made it through the hard times; it’s only by God’s strength that we have continued to walk each day. We are so thankful for all the support and countless prayers on our behalf. The power of prayer is absolutely amazing! God hears and answers our prayers!

I am still here 3 years later, and I am feeling the best I have in the last 3 years! My new “miracle” chemo Kadcyla is doing it’s job! All of the bumps and lumps we have been watching have completely gone away. We watched them shrink each time I would receive a treatment, and now they are gone! My side effects have been minimal compared to what I have dealt with these last 3 years. And my energy level has been increasing each day! I can have a busy day and not be completely exhausted for the next couple of days. Pray this treatment will continue to work with minimal side effects!

I am excited to see how God will work through this new energy that I have. I am thankful for many opportunities to help and encourage friends and new acquaintances, many on their own cancer journeys. I know so many that are hurting and facing difficult times right now. My prayer list is long and the opportunities are great.I know that God can and does work miracles. I know that He works all things together for good to those who love Him and are called according to His purpose, as He tells us in Romans 8:28. Will you pray that God can use us to share this hope with those in need right now?20140317-222200.jpg



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